FEEL GOOD FRIDAY: People we love…


by Dave Markwell

This morning one of my wonderfully goofy 6 am CrossFit girls made me love her. When she looked at me with hope and fear as she asked if we could play her iPod during the workout, I was moved. There was really nothing special about this moment, but 6 am on a weekday morning our standards of love may be unique. As I shook my head and smiled and plugged in her device and Prince came blasting out, I felt love for a person and an ordinary moment in time.

This is not unusual. I feel this way often. My life is filled with people who create moments in which a love can happen. The people we love are made in the moments we share. They change with the times and places of our lives. We can and do love many people, if only for a brief moment. This is ok. The duration of the love is not important. The connection is what matters. I don’t understand how or where or when these connections occur and why sometimes they do and sometimes they don’t. I do understand that it’s nice when they happen. They remind us that we’re connected and make us feel good about life. They tell us the truth that life is pretty good.

While parking my truck at the grocery store the other day, an old black guy and I met in the lot as our vehicles parked side-by-side. We walked across the pavement toward the store together chatting about the recent storm as the autumn sun shone on our path. Upon entering the store, we went our different directions with wishes for a good day and grins. I loved this man in this moment. For 30 seconds, we connected as human beings and our lives were moved in some infinitesimal degree by this. It mattered.

We can feel love for people at any time. We don’t choose the times we feel this way. These moments seem to choose us. We can love in a grocery store line. We can love at the gas pump. We can love while walking our dog or doing the dishes. We can love as a memory, as a fantasy, or in a dream. These feelings can surprise us with their power and they resonate long after the moment has passed. It’s a good hangover to have.

[EDITOR’S NOTE:”Feel Good Friday” is a regular column written by Des Moines resident Dave Markwell, who just published his first book called “A Feel Good Life” (buy it on Amazon here). Dave also extols to all neighbors: “Enjoy where we live. Put your feet on the pavement and truly feel how great it is to live here!” Also, you can “friend” Dave on Facebook here. Or work out with him at his exercise company Waterland CrossFit!]


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